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If you’ve noticed that holding down a job while raising children can be challenging, you are not alone. According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, The percent of mothers with children under the age of 18 who are working or looking for work is now 70.6 percent.
Need some help finding balance? I’ve found these five strategies helpful for balancing motherhood and employment:
Choose Mentors: Your “Inner Circle.” Consider supportive friends and family as mentors. Specifically, the people in your life who tend to provide encouragement and accountability for you. They “speak the truth in a loving way.”
Professionally, pay close attention to what stellar employees or leaders do and say. Doing similar things yourself may lead to a promotion or raise. Remember, when things are going smoothly at work, there’s a whole lot less stress to spill over at home.
Learn from the Experts. Read books on work/life balance by inspiring authors like: Zig Ziglar, Stephen Covey and Stormie Omartian. You can learn how to make the most of work and family from people who have made a career out of teaching others principles to live life to the fullest.
Eliminate the Extraneous: Just because something is good, doesn’t mean it’s good to do right now. You already have a full plate raising your children and keeping your home. Add in a job and your cup can literally “runneth over.”
Understand that at this stage and season of your life, it may not be in your family’s best interest for you to do extra volunteer work. It may not even be the right season of life for your kids to be engaged in multiple extra-curricular activities. If it’s gotten to the point that your family rarely sits down together for a meal, that’s an indication to scale back – at least for now.
Time together as a family deserves high priority and should be something of a non-negotiable. Though you may be temporarily unpopular with your kids as you require them to reduce some of their outside commitments, it’s worth it.
Delegate: One of my mentors told me “Chores are not something you do TO your children, it’s something you do FOR your children.” Working moms, do not let guilt over the fact that you spend time at work somehow mislead you into requiring less from your children. When I first started working outside the home, I didn’t want my precious time with my kids to be wasted spent fighting over chores. But that was a short-sighted mistake. Here’s why: these are future adults. And if they grow up accustomed to being served, instead of serving others it’s be a recipe to creating spoiled, entitled, self-centered adults.
Household responsibilities build character and teach a work ethic to your children. And simply put, you need their help! Don’t deny your children the opportunity to be a blessing to your entire family. Make sure you require them to do regular, recurring, unpaid work around the house. For help in assigning age appropriate chores, try our “Working Mom Chore Chart” and the “Kids To Do List.” http://www.workingmom.com/age-guidelines.htm
Set Goals: “If you have no idea where you’re going, you’re guaranteed to get there!” (A pearl of wisdom from my Dad.) He was right. The importance of setting personal and professional goals cannot be overstated.
Jot down a list of things you like. Things that bring you joy. Things you enjoy. Then jot down some of the things you want out of life. Things you’d like to accomplish, places to go, relationships you wish to mend or forge. Lastly, jot down what you would need to do to make them become reality. Ask your mentors for their opinions on how you can get where you want to be. It’s amazing what clear goals and a sense of purpose can do for your entire countenance.
Take a Day off and Rest: This is a shocking truism, but you will actually get more done at home and at work in six days when you are focused, well-rested and productive than you would by working yourself into exhaustion each and every day – either inside or outside the home. Even the Bible says take a day of rest every seven days. Not only that, but God himself rested on the seventh day after six days of work creating the universe! Get organized and be intentional about regularly taking time to recharge, replenish and refresh your body, mind and spirit.
In other words, put yourself on your own to-do list.
You work hard – both inside and outside of the home. And in case you haven’t heard it in a while, remember that earning money to provide for your family can be a tremendous blessing. Be thankful and grateful for what your family and your work bring to your life.
How about you? If you work outside the home full-time, what balance strategies have been helpful for you?