A Mom’s Biblical Job Description

Today’s guest post is by Stephen Altrogge. He’s a pastor at Sovereign Grace Church in Indiana, Pennsylvania.

This post first appeared on his blog last month. My daughter, Anne, sent me the link. I asked Stephen if he’s be willing to share this as a guest post on my blog and he graciously agreed.

I love the simplicity of his message and it goes hand in hand with my No More Perfect Moms book!

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89792799 (3)“FACT”: If your children can’t read by age four there is a 95% chance they will end up homeless and on drugs.

“FACT”: If your children eat any processed food there is an 85% chance they will contract a rare, most likely incurable disease, by age 12.

“FACT”: If  you’re not up at dawn reading the Bible to your children, you are most likely a pagan caught in the clutches of witchcraft.

“FACT”: If your children watch more than 10 minutes of television a day there is 75% chance they will end up in a violent street gang by age 17.

Obviously, the “facts” listed above are not true. But, I’ve noticed that the Internet has made it much easier for people, and moms in particular, to compare themselves to each other. Now, just to be clear, this is not a post against “mom blogs”, or whatever they’re called. If you write a mom blog, that’s cool with me. This is a post to encourage the moms who tend to freak out and feel like complete failures when they read the mom blogs and mom Facebook posts.

Moms, Jesus wants you to chill out about being a mom. You don’t have to make homemade bread to be a faithful mom. You don’t have to sew you children’s clothing to be a faithful mom. You don’t have to coupon, buy all organic produce, keep a journal, scrapbook, plant a garden, or make your own babyfood to be a faithful mom. There’s nothing wrong with these things, but they’re also not in your biblical job description.

Your job description is as follows:

  • Love God. This simply means finding some time during the day to meet with the Lord. It doesn’t have to be before all the kids are awake. It doesn’t have to be in the pre-dawn stillness. Your job is to love God. How you make that happen can look a million different ways.
  • Love your husband (unless you’re a single mom, of course). Your second job is to love and serve your husband. Husbands are to do the same for their wives, but that’s for a different post. If your husband really likes homemade bread, maybe you could make it for him. But don’t make homemade bread simply because you see other moms posting pictures of their homemade bread on Facebook.
  • Love your kids. Your calling as mom is to love your kids and teach them to follow the Lord. They don’t need to know Latin by age six. If they do, more power to you. But that’s a bonus, not part of the job description. Your job is simply to love your kids with all your exhausted heart, and to teach them to love Jesus. That’s a high calling. Don’t go throwing in other, extraneous things to make your life more difficult. If you want to teach your kids to sew, great. But don’t be crushed by guilt if your kids aren’t making stylish blazers by the age of 10.

Moms, Jesus want you to rest in him. He wants you to chill out. His yoke is easy and his burden is light. Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Don’t try to be something God hasn’t called you to be. If the mom blogs are making you feel guilty, stop reading them. Be faithful to what he has truly called you to do, and know that he is pleased with you. When your kids are resting, don’t feel guilty about watching an episode of “Lost”, or whatever your favorite show may happen to be.

Love God, love your husband, love your kids. Keep it simple and chill out.

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6 Responses to A Mom’s Biblical Job Description

  1. Nicole says:

    Totally appreciate this post, especially from the an outside perspective. Thank you for your grace, Stephen! I try to be very honest and real on my blog so that mothers will feel refreshed when they read it, rather than like a failure. One thing I would add to our job description as mothers. “To love our neighbors as ourselves”. This is true for mothers as much as it is for any Christian. Sometimes I think it’s easy to forget that moms are called to this too. It’s important because it REALLY determines HOW we mother if we understand this to be part of our mission!!!

  2. Nia Ramo says:

    This Made my heart Smile, THANK YOU!!!

  3. Brigette Hill says:

    Wonderful reminder!

  4. Cheryl Wright says:

    As a mom of 4 kids…I try to garden, but it usually turns to weeds.
    I do try to teach my daughter to sew, and not get her hair tangled in the machine.
    I try to make the best chocolate chip cookies,
    but the neighbor’s cookies are better.
    I try to keep a clean house, but I secretly know my
    friends house is cleaner.
    My firstborn was reading at the age of four. My pride was hurt when
    I found out my thirdborn was reading below grade level.
    level at the beginning of the schoolyear.
    I compared myself to other super moms who spoke and felt unworthy.
    But…you know…. I remember another speaker who said to love
    our kids for who they are and not for who they aren’t.
    I decided that this also applied to me. That I need to love myself
    for the mom that I am, and God made me this way.
    And at the end of the day, all that matters is that I love God and
    that my kids feel God’s love through me. The rest will
    fall into place as He sees fit.

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