You are smart. You are talented. You will probably be asked to do lots of things.
Work at Vacation Bible School. Serve as room mom. Coach the soccer team. Serve on the moms group leadership team. Then you might throw a full or part-time job in there.
Can you say stressed?
For many years I said yes to too much and my health, my laundry, my meals, my family, my marriage, and my spiritual life suffered because of it. I knew I had to change something. That’s when a friend shared with me a guideline she followed for finding balance: one major, one minor.
This boundary is an advance decision I make to only commit to one major responsibility and one minor responsibility outside the home at a time.
A major responsibility is something that I have on a regular (weekly) basis like committing to teach Sunday School, leading a moms group, or even full-time work. It requires daily or weekly (or almost weekly) preparation and a regular commitment.
A minor responsibility is a “just show up” responsibility. Working in the church nursery or helping with my child’s Christmas party at school are minor responsibilities. No prep needed, just show up, serve, and leave.
If I get asked to do a Major responsibility, I have to make a choice: either quit the major responsibility I’m currently doing or say no to the request.
I started using this boundary many years ago when I was home full-time and it applied only to my volunteer activities. Now, however, my nest is nearly empty and I’m working full-time at Hearts at Home. No more major responsibilities for me.
Do I grieve that? Yes. Are there some things I’d love to say yes to? Yes.
But am I less stressed and more focused as a wife and mother? Absolutely!
That’s the beauty of boundaries!
What about you? Do you have a boundary/guideline you use to determine how many activities you say yes to?
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