We live in such a conforming society that many of us struggle with our unique qualities. And if we struggle with our unique qualities, you can only imagine how challenging it is for our kids to embrace how they are different from others.
For uniqueness to be appreciated and celebrated, differences must be seen as normal and, well, different. Not right and wrong. Not better than or worse than. Instead, we’re all part of God’s perfect purpose.
We read about this in 1 Corinthians 12:4–27:
There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. . . .Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. . . .
Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!”
On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor…
But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. We all have a part in God’s perfect purpose.
We are all wonderfully made with a purpose! In our book No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids for Who They Are, Dr. Kathy Koch shares about how she was very tall as a child and she towered above the other kids so that made her self-conscious. In time, however, she learned that her height was something worth celebrating because she can help people reach things and rarely needed a ladder to hang things from the ceiling when she was an elementary teacher.
How our kids think of themselves has alot to do with how we encourage their uniqueness. We also influence them when we talk about the things we like or don’t like about ourselves. I shared about that a little more in this month’s Hearts On-The-Go E-Newsletter. Our words and attitudes are often picked up by our kids without us even realizing it!
What about you? How do you feel about your unique qualities? Has God reframed something for you and now you see it differently? What about for one of your kids?
Today is our Third Thursday blog hop where we link up with other moms who are offering encouragement on the topic of loving your uniqueness. Hop around and find some more encouragement!