Q & A Day: What books have you used to teach your kids about sex?

Dear Jill,

10 Questions Kids Ask About Sex rd 2 (1)I have been reading the Bill and Pam Farrel’s book 10 Questions Kids Ask about Sex, after you featured it on your blog a while back. I have 4 boys ages 8, 6, 4, and 2. I know we have needed to have this talk for a while. My emotions on this are all over the place and I have some issues from my growing up years I am working through so that I can teach my boys the Godly meaning of sex. My question is what picture books or other books can you suggest to use while we talk to our boys? Thanks in advance!



Dear Kara,

Good for you for thinking ahead about this subject!  Most of us are leery of having these conversations with our kids because it’s a subject we’re not entirely comfortable with ourselves!  I definitely recommend Bill and Pam’s new Hearts at Home book 10 Question Kids Ask About Sex.  I’m so glad you are already reading that.

With some of our kids, we used the Passport to Purity series from Family Life.  For others, we piggybacked conversations about the body and sex when they had the film series in school.

We always used correct language to talk about parts of the body even when they were small.  We also didn’t shy away from answering their questions as they came along.

Because you posted this question on Facebook, there were two book suggestions immediately made.  Those include:

5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son by Vicki Courtney.

5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter  by Vicki Courtney.

When I dug into our bookshelf, I found the books we had used when the kids were younger.  They were the first two books of the God’s Design for Sex book series.

Let’s see if any other parents have other resources to suggest!



What about you? What resources have you used to help teach your children about sex? You can post your suggestions as a comment here




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6 thoughts on “Q & A Day: What books have you used to teach your kids about sex?

  1. We have always used the “God’s Design for Sex” series. It is a wonderful series! We started talking to our daughter about sex in 2nd grade. I know it sounds very young, but God’s design for sex is natural and nothing to be ashamed about. By talking to our kids when they are young, it makes it easier to talk about when they are older. It takes the awkwardness out of the descussion. We have an ongoing and open dialogue with them. I have friends who worry about the time they are going to have “THE TAlK” with their children. We don’t have to worry about that, because my kids already know (almost) everything. My children have been asked not to talk to their friends about sex and they respect that boundary. My daughter is now 12 and we still have ongoing discussions. She comes to me when she hears things at school that she doesn’t understand. It also takes the pressure of my husband and I in regards to making sure we cover everything they need to know before they become teenagers. We teach it gradually: STD’s, purity, modesty, homosexuality etc. I hope that helps!

  2. I love a book done by Marc Brown, the guy who does the Arthur series onPBS. It is basic, to the point, and the pictures are similar to his Arthur characters. It is a thin paperback book, and found in Barnes and Noble.

  3. I used the God’s Design for Sex series for my 12 year old. I have always talked with my kids about their bodies using the proper terminology and who can and cannot touch them, but did not have “The Talk” with my son until this year. My daughter just turned 10 and I am thinking I should have “The Talk” with her after what I learned from the God’s Design for Sex series. I struggle with this because I really felt like I took a part of my son’s innocence from him when I described how sex works. He was truly shocked and didn’t seem to want to know about. I continued with the conversation with him because I know it was past time to talk to him about it, but it was kind of sad and refreshing to see that he really had no idea about sex. It’s a struggle to let go, but I know it is necessary for them to learn about it.

  4. I have 4 boys ages 11-20. We have used the sex series from Concordia Publishing House. (CPH.org) There are books & DVDs for each age group and can be used together or separately. When I volunteered for Pregnancy Helpline this series was considered one of the best.

  5. My parents had me read through “Preparing for Adolescence” by Dr. James Dobson” just as I began to go show signs of going through puberty. Twenty years later they have updated the book, it is what I just had my oldest daughter read through (I re-read it). Then, we discussed it. We’ve always just been as honest about questions when they arose. I have the opposite situation that Kara has. We have a 10, 8, 5, and 3 year old girl. We just had our first boy four months ago. I’m so glad to see these other suggestions for books!

  6. What’s the big secret by Larie Kransy Brown and Marc brown is perfect for kids under 10.

    And It’s perfectly normal by Robie Harris and illustated by Michael Emberly for kids older than 10. My kids had no questions or problems understanding after each book and it made Mom rest easy about the way the material was presented.