The Help…Have you seen the movie or read the book?

This summer I read the book The Help.  I read it on our week of vacation in the Wisconsin Dells and every time someone in my family asked me if I was enjoying the book, I’d say, “it’s totally ticking me off.”

But I kept reading.

Last night I went to see the movie.  It’s very true to the book.  And once again it absolutely ticked me off.

The injustice of it all is more than I can honestly process.  I cried my way through the book and I cried my way through the movie.

I believe this is a movie we all should see.  I should trouble our hearts because the way people treat one another sometimes is just downright wrong.

I’m grateful for how far we’ve come in race relations, but the reality of what has been and what still is grieves my heart.

Have you read the book or seen the movie?  What were your thoughts?  


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18 thoughts on “The Help…Have you seen the movie or read the book?

  1. I haven’t read the book or seen the movie. I’ve read several blogs on the topic, written by both white and black women. It has given me a lot to think about. It certainly seems very offensive to me. I will not be reading or seeing it.

  2. Erin, I didn’t find it offensive at all. In fact, I think it is VERY IMPORTANT for all of us to see. It’s grieving to me how one race has mistreated another race…and honestly still does at times. I encourage you to see the movie or read the book. It will get your heart thinking.

  3. This is a great book and the movie was superb! I certainly would NOT consider either of these OFFENSIVE, by any means (although some of the coarse language was unnecessary) It is a beautiful story of redemption and love and how one courageous woman reached out to tell the story! Go see for yourself and I’m certain your heart will be touched.

  4. I loved the book and thought the movie was done very well. Many of us learned about segregation and the civil rights movement in school, but the book and movie really brought it to life. Yes, there was a lot of injustice, but there were examples of people who did not fit the mold or general consensus of that time, black or white. And it was encouraging to see such bold strength and true friendship despite such adversity. You will cry, laugh, be stunned and uplifted. Highly recommended 🙂

    By the way…My heart broke for poor little Mae Mobley….and Constantine. Ughhh…my heart strings were pulled and the tears flowed!!!

  5. Hi Jill~

    I just saw the movie this past weekend! I do not usually go to a theatre to see a movie…I wait til it is out on DVD…and at that there are VERY FEW movies I invest time to watch!
    This one was EXCELLENT! I agree with you…I felt the same way! I am still processing my feelings about it! I have a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that there are people who can treat other people in such ways. I found myself feeling sad, angry, ashamed (to be part of race that would treat another race that way) but also happy and encouraged by the attitudes of the maids and the hope they carried and proud of them for the way they could demonstrate such love and care to the children of those who abused them….and hopeful that this would be one more example to us all to check our hearts and remember and practice the Golden Rule…treat others the way you want to be treated!
    I also felt pity for the “society” women in the movie who were so insecure that they would let one person “bully” them into behaviour that they were uncomfortable with and for the bullies…they both obviously are victims as well….of ignorance and upbringing!
    I am looking forward to seeing this movie again!

    Have a beautiful day, Jill!

  6. I loved the book and can’t wait to see the movie. My hubby took our youngest daughter on a date last week and it was playing. They both loved it and I hadn’t even thought of asking him to go with me! (thinking it may be one he wouldn’t enjoy) He said it made him think on so many levels which is exactly how I felt after reading the book. I was glad to hear you say that the movie is true to the book!

  7. I saw the movie last week with a friend and we thought the movie was great. Now it did make us think quite a bit about the times in the 60’s in the south. I quess the biggest statement that we agreed on was that we were embarassed to be white even though we had nothing to do with how people were treated back then. Thank God we don’t treat people like that now but we should never forget to treat everyone with respect and kindness.

    • I really liked reading the book first. There’s definitely more to the story in the book than they could ever show in a movie. As I watched the movie, it was nice to know the extra details from reading the book.

      I don’t think you can go wrong seeing the movie or reading the book first, but if you have a choice, I’d say read.

  8. read the book…longed to see the movie. finally convinced my daughter to go with me. I found the book amazing. I did think that it was pretty light on reality, especially in the movie, however, that is why people will go to see it and it still makes an impact. I lived most of my childhood and adulthood in NE PA. I was born and raised for my first eight years in brooklyn, NY with lots of diversity. My mother is irish and my father is haitian born and raised in Haiti. I grew up witnessing predudice in our daily lives. As the community became more diverse, it wasn’t as noticible, however, in our adult lives, my husband and I adopted three bi-racial children. Years later, we foster/adopted a caucasian daughter. WOW…I didn’t realize that is was still there. I thought I saw it all until a year and half ago we adopted a sibling group of 7…all black. Censure from the black community ultimitely was as bad as from the white, if not worse. While black women now have more employment opportunities, we are no closer to bridging the gap between black and white….when will it just be US.

    • Holly, that makes me so sad. I think your experience illustrates why these kinds of stories are important. We still have a long way to go.

  9. I haven’t seen the movie yet. I get very emotional over movies. My husband calls me a wimp (in a nice way) when it comes to sappy movies. I cry over Disney movies when something sad or touching happens…I cried in Ramona & Beezus on a happy part…LOL Up until yesterday I had my intentions set at not seeing “The Help” (even after a friend of mine told me it was an awesome movie). However after reading what everyone has wrote about the book and the movie, I think I’ll just have to break-in and go see it. I will make sure I bring a box of tissues and don’t wear any eye make-up…LOL. Thanks for writing about it!

    • Treva, it’s a movie that I wouldn’t mind seeing alone so I could just sit there and really have a cry-fest. I was with my dad and my son so I was a little self-conscious crying so much. But it’s worth the box of kleenex because it’s an important injustice to grieve over.

  10. I read the book and saw the movie twice. Jill, you’re exactly right, it is important to see! And I rarely say that about anything, much less a Hollywood movie. I took my daughter who is 13 and my son who is 15 . . . and my husband. I wanted my kids to feel offended, grieved, outraged so they never repeat that kind of behavior.

    The book and movie struck a chord with me because the white women would have been my father’s contemporaries. He was born and raised in North Carolina and while they were never wealthy enough to have live in help, segregation was a reality in his life. I heard many stories about it growing up.

    The book and movie made me want to be a better person. It caused me to really think about how I view people in general. It made me want to treat everyone like Jesus did.

  11. I read the book this summer and will wait until the DVD comes out to see the movie, but I am very excited about it. As an African American woman it did make me a little upset. My husband is from Jackson, MS and is 13 yrs older than I am so he could surely relate. It is sad, but its true. A great story and I am glad people are being affected in a positive way. The reality is that lots of people still think and speak this way about black people ( in the north and south). The only way for change to occur is for wrong to be exposed. It also made me appreciate the fact that I can be a stay at home mom to 4 little ones today. This is a luxury many black women didn’t have just 20 years ago. In fact they had to sacrifice their family to take care of someone else’s. I realize I am truly blessed of God despite the daily struggles of motherhood!

    • Darnetta, I absolutely agree…the only way for change to occur is for wrong to be exposed. Those are good words.

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