As a mom, I like to have my ducks in a row. However, it seems that my ducks more often like to waddle in a different direction than I have planned for them!
What’s a mom to do when her plans fall through?
After 28 years of mothering, I am finally learning how to better handle those moments. I’ve also come to understand that those “imperfect” moments in my day happen far more often than I realize.
I used to react. Now I’m learning to respond.
Reacting usually results in me being angry or yelling. I try to control the circumstances so they better match my expectations. The Mommy Monster almost always appears. Often an apology needs to be made in the end.
Responding usually results in me smiling, laughing, or just saying something like, “Of course…” “Of course, she filled her diaper within minutes of putting a fresh diaper on her,” “Of course, my son forgot his medicine and I need to run it to school,” “Of course, my husband forgot to stop by the store on the way home to pick up the gallon of milk I needed for dinner.” When I respond, conflict is reduced, grace prevails, and an apology is simply not needed.
When I am able to respond, I realize that the moment I’m in is just as important as the moment I planned on that didn’t happen the way I thought it would! I’m making memories either way…it will be a good memory, or one I wish I and my kids could forget.
When I’m able to respond, I can embrace “what is” instead of “what could have been.” I am also able to maximize an unexpected opportunity given to me.
What about you? How do you handle “imperfect” days? If you’ve learned to respond rather than react, can you share a practical way you’ve been able to make that transition?
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