It may not be well with your marriage,
but it can be well with your soul.
After answering hundreds of emails and Facebook messages from brokenhearted men and women whose spouse have betrayed them, Jill Savage put together this short, easy-to-read twenty-page e-book that will give you the wisdom and encouragement you need to find your footing in the chaotic mess you’ve found yourself in.
Your Next Steps will help you:
- Find a peace even in the middle of the mess.
- Understand what forgiveness is and isn’t.
- Reframe your pain in a way that helps you move forward.
- See your spouse in a way that allows healing to happen.
- Understand you’re not alone.
It’s a little, but power-packed e-book that provides the hope and help you desperately need.
Please note: this e-book is available only as a PDF download that can be printed out or read on your computer or smartphone.
Excerpt from the introduction of Your Next Steps E-Book:
“I’m leaving. I have no intention of returning. I’m pursuing the other relationship and I want a divorce.” With those words, my husband walked out of the house and my life turned upside down.
I never pictured myself a single parent. I never imagined my marriage would experience such a painful breach of trust. I never experienced such horrific pain and rejection.
You’ve picked up this book because you’re where I was. The world is dark. The grief is real. Your heart is ripped to pieces and you’re not sure you’re ever going to experience joy again.
You feel alone in a world that seems to be moving forward while you feel left behind. You’re suddenly eating alone. Sitting at church alone. Taking care of the kids alone. You’ve likely never felt as alone as you do right now.
Maybe you’re not physically alone, but you’re emotionally alone. Your spouse hasn’t left, but he or she isn’t committed either. You’ve discovered there’s someone else. You’re not sure what to do and you seem to be the only one willing to do something.
Or maybe you’re both willing to make it work, but it seems too big, too overwhelming, and too painful to even feel hopeful. You wonder if your marriage really can make it.
One morning about two weeks after my husband left, I found myself curled up in bed crying my eyes out and begging God to relieve the pain. I’d sent my two brokenhearted teenagers off to school (our three older kids, who were young adults out on their own, were also emotionally wrecked at their father’s choices) and had crawled back in bed. I just wanted to sleep so I wouldn’t feel the pain.
I’d discovered the affair seven months earlier. He’d recommitted to us, then started communicating with her again, then recommitted to our marriage, then back to her….back and forth six times. Then one day he left and indicated he really was done. I’ve never felt such emotional pain as I did in the two weeks after he left.
So this particular morning I awoke with swollen eyes as I had every day for the two weeks before. I went through the motions to get my boys off to school and then I did my best to make the reality of my world go away by attempting to sleep, begging God to change my circumstances.
In that dark moment, God took me back a few years earlier to a Hearts at Home conference for moms where I had heard author and speaker, Jennifer Rothschild, speak about losing her sight at the age of 17. As she shared her story, she made this simple statement: It is not well with my circumstances, but it is well with my soul. I remembered her saying it but it really didn’t apply to my life at the time. On this dark February morning, however, it most definitely applied to me. It most definitely was NOT well with my circumstances. Was it even possible that it could be well with my soul?
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