No More Perfect Marriages Coaching

Do you seem to have the same arguments over and over without resolve? Do you feel miles apart and don’t know how to find each other again? Are you healing from infidelity and need a couple who’s been there help guide your healing process? Maybe you’re doing well in your marriage but you want to make sure you stay that way!

No More Perfect Marriages Coaching developed out of our own marriage pain, our healing work, and the hundreds of requests we receive for couples looking for help for their marriage. Some couples schedule marriage mentoring preventively—it’s a time to push the pause button and ask, “How are we really doing?” Others seek it out for their broken marriage barely hanging on by a thread.

We’re self-described as being married 34 years, 25 of them happily. Many lessons have been learned while turning around our hurting relationship which included pornography, high amounts of criticism, and infidelity. After moving past those experiences and others, we’re committed to offering hope and help to other couples any way we can.

If you schedule No More Perfect Marriages Coaching, Mark and Jill will:

  • Help you move from frustration to fascination with your differences
  • Show you how to give and receive love, forgiveness, and grace more intentionally
  • Help you hear each other better and equip you with improved communication tools
  • Assist you in evaluating your past and discovering how it’s affecting your present
  • Help you develop a plan to keep your marriage a priority
  • Assist you in discovering the seven slow fades every marriage experiences and identifying which ones specifically are robbing you of intimacy
  • Empower you to use your eight God-Tools to turn around those fades
  • Provide compassionate, honest conversation with occasional humor, that helps you know you’re not alone while taking your marriage to the next level.

 

TIMEFRAME AND INVESTMENT

Because there is value in stepping away from the everyday and focusing solely on your marriage, we have created three different coaching options and price points. The Long Weekends and Full Week Retreats allow us to give you our full attention for a period of time. We only work with one couple at a time for those extended coaching opportunities. For the Full Week Retreats, Mark works his construction job during the day while Jill works from home. Mentoring happens in the evenings. However, Jill is available for spontaneous conversations and help navigating conversations during the day.

 

Coaching Sessions

Skype, Zoom, or in-person (Normal, IL) evening appointments

Couple to Couple Coaching

$250 intake session (usually 2 hours)

$200 each 90-minute session thereafter

(We suggest bi-weekly 90 minute sessions plus 15 minute phone call (no charge) on weeks we don’t meet,
but we are happy to work with your schedule and budget)

 

Long Weekend Retreat

3 days: Friday afternoon arrival to Sunday afternoon departure
(we can also do 3 day retreats during weekdays as well) 

Private lodging at the Savage’s expansive, country farmhouse including private room with private bath

Up to 6 hours of mentoring

6 meals for two (special diets gladly accommodated)

Casual and relaxed meal conversations throughout the weekend

Guidance for daytime conversations as a couple, individual work and reading, and best use of weekend depending on issues being dealt with.

$1500 all-inclusive meals, lodging, coaching in Normal, Illinois


Full Week Retreat:

6 days: Sunday PM arrival to Saturday AM departure

Private lodging at the Savage’s expansive, country farmhouse including private room with private bath

Up to 11 hours of mentoring over 6 days (Sunday through Thursday—2 hrs each day, Friday 1 hr)

16 meals for two (6 breakfasts, 5 lunches, 5 dinners—special diets gladly accommodated)

Casual Dinner conversation together Sunday through Thursday. (Dinner on your own on Friday.)

Guidance for daytime conversations, reading, and best use of entire week depending on issues being dealt with.

$3000 all-inclusive meals, lodging, mentoring in Normal, Illinois

 

The Long Weekend and Full Week retreats are part vacation, part personal/marriage getaway and part coaching. In the summer, our beautiful wrap-around porch beckons you to come sit and talk, read, or just think and pray. In the winter, our large home with a private guest living room offers the same.

We also have a workout room (coming Fall 2017!) and a hot tub that round out the retreat setting and make it a relaxing place to slow the pace and give love space.

SCHOLARSHIPS

Because we never want finances to get in the way of any couple receiving help, we offer a limited number of reduced mentoring options each year. We do require some financial investment even in those cases, however. What we’ve found is that if we don’t, we often end up wanting the healing more than the couple who came for free. If you need to apply for a reduced mentoring option, please let us know.

 

WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING…

My wife and I spent one weekend with Mark and Jill for marriage mentoring. It was amazing! Their wealth of knowledge and vulnerability made it easy to connect with them. They gave us awesome tools to use in our relationship. We had some tough conversations and worked through some hard stuff, but it needed to be done. This was, for me, the best weekend I have had with my wife since we’ve been married. I have never felt closer to her or more motivated to invest in our marriage and continue to learn and grow. I used to be kind of put off by “counseling” and thought that was only for really messed up people. Well news flash I’m a really messed up person, so I need it just as much as anyone else. I would encourage and challenge all of us to do counseling or mentoring of some kind, not only for ourselves but our marriage, our children, our grandchildren, and for generations to come. There is strength in seeking to better yourself and your relationships. You don’t have to be in a bad place to do that. Work on it before and it won’t get to that point.”  Robert Cruse

TRANSPORTATION AND CITY INFO

Located in Normal, Illinois, which is two hours south of Chicago, two hours north of St. Louis, and two and a half hours west of Indianapolis, our home is in the country and surrounded by miles of corn and bean fields. However, we’re only three miles from stores and restaurants. It’s country quiet with city conveniences just down the road.

If you’re flying in, we recommend flying into BMI—the airport in Bloomington-Normal, Illinois. Our home is located about 3 miles from the airport. If you prefer to fly into Chicago or St. Louis, you can also rent a car, catch a bus (Peoria Charter), or take the Amtrak train to Bloomington-Normal.  We are happy to provide transportation two and from the Bloomington airport, train, or bus station.

Bloomington-Normal is filled with Abraham Lincoln history. The David Davis Mansion is located in town and we’re only a one hour drive (or train ride) to Lincoln sites in Springfield, Illinois (Presidential Museum and Lincoln Home). Bloomington-Normal is also located along Route 66 and there is a Route 66 Museum in town. There are over 40 parks and 27 miles of blacktop walking, riding, running trails through town. These make for great couple outings during the week or weekend.

 

LET’S GET STARTED!

Want to set up coaching? Click HERE to purchase your intake coaching session. Once purchased, Mark or Jill will call you to set up a coaching appointment at your convenience.

Want to schedule a retreat? Fill out this form and Mark or Jill will contact you to discuss date possibilities: